Mothers Day – Value Mothers Because the Hand that Rocks the Cradle Rules the World.

Mother’s Day will be celebrated on Sunday 12 May and we encourage you to make it a big celebration. Motherhood and mothers need to be valued and appreciated a lot more than they do.

You know the line by now, “The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to love his children’s mother.”

Why is it that so many men just don’t get that? A key part of being a good father is being a good husband. Husbandry is a lost art these days, but when fathers value mothers for their incredible contribution to the family, and in particular the children, everyone wins.

Children need a mother and a father. Now that’s just common sense. However such common sense can get you arrested for hate speech in Canada – I kid you not!

Sadly a mother’s day celebration has been scrapped at a Sydney preschool out of mistaken respect for single parents. This is the lunacy we are facing in our nation at this time. That’s why we have to make our voice count in two weeks’ time for the sake of our families and our children and dare I say it, the Mums of Australia.

But the good news here in Australia is, for the most part, we still celebrate the importance of mothering and next week is Australia’s Mothers’ Day – a day for taking our mums out to lunch or buying a pavlova. So it’s time to appreciate and value the mothers of our children.

Why is that that men don’t get the importance of loving their children’s mother? It’s a question that has puzzled me a lot over the years. I guess the fact that I grew up in a broken home myself has inspired me to be one of those who work hard to ‘get it’.

Do I always get it? Well, frankly, “No!” I am quite a selfish individual and tend to get absorbed in my own projects, particularly when they involve my work. I am also absorbed in my own needs like food, sex, recreation and hobbies. Most men are. So what is the answer to my dilemma as a father, among many, who doesn’t quite get the need for appreciating, honouring, caring and valuing the mother of my children.

First of all we have to use logic. All men pride themselves on their logic.

Let’s look at the value of a mother’s work in terms of the logic behind cold hard cash.

In 2019 www.salary.com determined that the time mothers spend performing the 10 most popular “mum job functions” would equate to an annual cash compensation of $232,485 (Australian Dollars) for a Stay-at-Home Mum.

Mothers and their families can create their own “mum pay check” by visiting the Mom Salary Wizard®.

Meredith Hanrahan, when she was the senior vice president at Salary.com, said,  “We value the job of mum based on her job description and calculate what an employer would have to pay in cash if they were to hire someone to do all that a mum does.”

Salary.com created the ‘Mum Job’ based on benchmarking principles that determine the value of a job. Following these employer-based principles, it is important to match jobs based on their job descriptions and not solely job titles. In Mum’s case, her role is an example of a hybrid job with 10 different jobs – each with different salaries – that comprise her job.

In the Mum Salary Survey, 12,150 mums quantified their hours worked in each role for a typical week. Salary.com’s compensation professionals weighted the different responsibilities of the job to determine mum’s overall total compensation.

The job titles that best matched a mum’s definition of her work  are (in increasing order of the percentage of her total ‘Mum Job’ salary) were: Laundry Machine Operator, Janitor, Van Driver, Housekeeper, Computer Operator, Cook, Day Care Centre, Teacher, Facilities Manager, Psychologist, Chief Executive Officer.

“We found that not only are working mums outsourcing less and doing more themselves, but they’re also spending more time on the higher-paying jobs such as facilities manager, CEO, and psychologist — both factors that contributed to their increased salary figure. According to the Salary.com survey, the working mum puts in over a 92-hour work week once you combine her full-time job, mum hours, and mum overtime.

The primary driver of mum’s six-figure salary depends on the amount of overtime worked. This year the stay-at-home mum’s overtime averaged 56 hours in their 96-hour “work week” — over half her time spent on the job is overtime”.

Hopefully Salary.com’s analysis of dollar values of the work done by the mothers of our children will encourage us to pull the stops out for Mothers’ Day next Sunday.

Lovework

“The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world”, is an old saying that has  relevance for us all if we have a mother? Abraham Lincoln put it well, “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother”. I have some very specific Lovework for you this week. Write a letter (not just a card) of appreciation to your mother. Ask your children to do the same for their mother. If they are too young to write, write it on their behalf because this is the week for fathers to value mothers. If we don’t, who will?

Yours for valuing mothers

Warwick Marsh

By |2019-09-12T12:55:52+10:00May 5th, 2019|Australia, Family|5 Comments

About the Author:

Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison Marsh since 1975 and they have five children and eight grandchildren; he and his wife live in Wollongong in NSW, Australia. He is a family & faith advocate, social reformer, musician, TV producer, writer and public speaker. Warwick is a leader in the Men’s and Family Movement, and he is well known in Australia for his advocacy for children, marriage, manhood, family, fatherhood and faith. Warwick is passionate to encourage men to be great fathers and to know the greatest Father of all, the Father in whom “there is no shadow of turning.” He also blogs at Just a Man.

5 Comments

  1. R Hawkins May 15, 2019 at 5:09 am - Reply

    Lovely article.

  2. Anthea Day May 15, 2019 at 11:09 am - Reply

    Being one of six children and nurtured in a loving home, I’m so grateful to my Mum and Dad. A hard working and loving stay at home Mum and a hard working Dad built foundations into my life that are being beautifully reproduced in my children’s lives and their children’s lives. A happy, secure, God loving family is the basis for a rock solid foundation.

  3. Monica Bennett-Ryan May 15, 2019 at 1:49 pm - Reply

    Mum’s are literally being ‘thrown away’ by their children at the moment. And it’s heartbreaking. But the education system has taught a generation of children to actively dishonour their parents. At first it was subtle, “tell us what you had for breakfast,” followed by a discussion about what they ‘should’ be having. Then came ‘dob in a parent’, (to see if children were being smacked at home). Then there came “you don’t have to tell your parents about this.” And now we find children are being given detailed instructions by teachers on how to deceive their parents and hide the websites they are viewing. It’s no wonder children no longer value their mothers or fathers. This has to stop. Only a strong, unified, Christian voice will have the power to bring change.

  4. Jenny May 15, 2019 at 5:01 pm - Reply

    Thank you for the lovely article about mums! I am a mum myself to three (nearly!) grown up children. I have had the immense joy of staying home to care for them and couldn’t have wished for a better job! Although it has been exhausting and we have needed nerves of steel at times, I now look back and know that I could not have spent the days I have had on this earth doing anything more rewarding and satisfying. Our children are now our dear, grown up friends – people who we love being with and who we are so proud of. The effort we put into loving and caring for our children should never be underestimated.

  5. Kerri May 15, 2019 at 10:39 pm - Reply

    So important to value mums , and for us to encourage one another!!

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